GRIEF is a normal process that can last a long time. Intensely personal, there is no right or wrong way to grief. We can grief over loss of loved ones, loss of a job, loss of a relationship, loss of expectations, good health or other kinds of losses.
The grief from loss can be complicated, especially at the catastrophic loss of a loved one. One may feel anger and bitterness at being abandoned, self-reproach for feeling too much or too little sadness, relief that a loved one is no longer suffering, gratitude that our burden of care for a sick family member is over, guilt and shame from feeling relief or gratitude. Or a person may feel just feel disconnected from his or her emotions, watching with detachment a world that has come to a standstill.
Counseling is not about suppressing pain, rather the process of counselling allows the individual to experience and work through their grief and pain by verbalising their thoughts and feelings. Grieving takes time, time for a person to accept the reality of a loss and for the pain to subside. Eventually, these feelings may come to pass, or perhaps be sufficiently diminished, even if we never get over them completely.