When emotions feel overwhelming, or hard to reach. Feel your emotions without being overwhelmed by them.
Master’s-trained counsellors · Evidence-based approaches · Private clinic at 1 Scotts Road · Mon-Sat, by appointment
Emotional regulation is the ability to recognise what you feel, manage its intensity, and choose how you respond. It does not mean staying calm all the time, suppressing anger, or always being able to explain your feelings.
Regulation can involve soothing yourself when overwhelmed, reconnecting with feelings you have pushed aside, or expressing a need before frustration builds. The aim is to make room for your emotions while having more choice in what you do next.
At Gentle Mind, we support difficulties with anger, emotional overwhelm, withdrawal, and expressing how you feel.
You may know how you would like to respond, yet find that behaviour hard to access when emotions run high. Several factors can contribute:
When you are stretched thin, everyday frustrations can become harder to manage.
If your feelings were repeatedly dismissed, criticised, or met with conflict, you may have learned to hide them, dismiss them, or struggle to express them safely.
Feeling unheard, criticised, or uncertainty may carry personal meaning that makes a reaction especially intense.
Your temperament and sensory sensitivities can influence how you experience emotions and what helps you settle.
Emotional regulation is a skill, and like any skill, it can be learned. Counselling gives you a steady space to understand why your emotions hit the way they do, and practical ways to ride them out.
Recognising emotions earlier instead of fighting them
Noticing the signals that appear before you become overwhelmed or shut down, so you can respond sooner. Pushing feelings away tends to make them louder. Counselling helps you meet difficult emotions with acceptance rather than judgement, so you’re not adding “I shouldn’t feel this way” on top of the original feeling.
Making sense of how you feel
We’ll map your triggers and patterns, and build the vocabulary to name what’s happening in the moment. Naming an emotion often takes some of its power away.
Develop tools for the hard moments
Depending on your needs, we may practice grounding, self-soothing, mindfulness, and ways of pausing that you can draw on when emotions intensify.
Understanding recurring reactions
Sometimes reactivity is tied to stress, past experiences or how your nervous system is wired (as can happen with ADHD or anxiety). Where it’s helpful, we’ll explore these connections at a pace you’re comfortable with.
Learning to repair
While taking responsibility for your actions and considering how to repair relationships. We’ll work on what to do before, during and after, including how to talk about what happened without spiralling into guilt or shame.
Progress looks different for everyone. It may mean noticing a reaction sooner, recovering more easily, fewer regretted moments, or having calmer conversations.
Everyone is welcome here, whatever your background, culture, faith, gender, sexual orientation, age or ability. You won’t need to explain or defend who you are.
Our counsellors hold Master's degrees in Counselling and are accredited by the Singapore Association for Counselling (SAC).
Counselling shaped around you and your priorities. We adapt our approach to your needs, experiences and preferred pace.
Not sure if counselling is right for you, or if we’re the right fit? Chat with us first. There’s no obligation to continue.
Emotions like everything else in life can go wrong.
But once we learn that negative emotions are workable, that is we can understand them and find meaningful ways to cope with them, they lose much of their toxicity.
When we learn to regulate emotions, it reduces our vulnerability to extremely painfully emotional experiences and increases our emotional resilience.
Anger often has something tender underneath, such as hurt, fear or feeling powerless. When there’s no proper outlet, it can build until it spills out in ways you regret, or turn into lingering resentment.
Shame whispers that something is wrong with you, not just that you made a mistake. It makes people hide, withdraw or stay silent, which makes it hard to say what you’re really feeling.
Sometimes the problem isn’t too much feeling but too little. Sometimes, before emotions feel like too much, the mind can switch them off, leaving you detached, empty or going through the motions.
When everything feels like too much, it can seem like nothing will change. This is a sign that you’re carrying more than you should, not a sign that you’re beyond help. If you’re having thoughts of harming yourself, please reach out to a crisis helpline right away (see below)
Sadness can feel heavy and tiring, and it may make you want to pull away from people and things you usually enjoy. When it goes unacknowledged, it can sometimes show up as exhaustion or feeling flat. See counselling for grief and/or counselling for depression.
Anxiety keeps your body on alert, even when there’s no immediate danger. Intense worrying, racing thoughts and tension can make it hard to calm down or think clearly. Learn more about counselling for anxiety
When we accept our emotions, we may be spared an extra layer of emotional pain by not having to feel upset about feeling upset. Difficult emotions that we meet with acceptance are less likely to have as much staying power. Accepting a feeling means acknowledging that it is present. You can feel angry, hurt, or afraid while taking responsibility for your actions. Counselling helps you make room for emotions and develop ways to respond that respect both your needs and other people’s boundaries.
The duration of counselling can vary depending on individual needs and circumstances. Some clients may achieve significant progress in a few sessions, while others may require more time. The counsellor will assess your situation during the initial consultation and discuss a recommended timeframe for your journey.
Regular sessions are typically scheduled, allowing for ongoing support and monitoring of progress.
It is worth noting that it may take a few sessions to build up the rapport and trust necessary for therapy to work.
Information about our fees and cancellation policy can be found on our fees page.
Depending on your readiness, you can start with one of the four options below
Exploring our Counsellors Profile
Take a look at our counsellors’ profile and consider if either of them can offer the support you are looking for.
Asking questions about the process
Feel free to reach out to us directly if you have any questions. We can be reached via Whatsapp @ +65 98181963 or send us an email via the button link below.
a free 20 minutes consultation
If a brief conversation helps, meet with the counsellor of your choice to decide if she will be a good fit.
Arrange for a session
Once you are ready to decide, arrange your 1st session via Whatsapp, fill up our appointment booking form, or simply call us. Sessions are available in-person and online.
If you or anyone you know are in need of immediate help, or facing a life-threatening situation, call 995 or go to the nearest hospital A&E.
If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts or need immediate emotional support, contact Samaritans of Singapore (SOS):
24-hour hotline: 1767
24-hour CareText via WhatsApp: 9151 1767
